STRESS IS PARADOXICAL

Text: “Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. And let endurance have its perfect result, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.” (James 1:2-4) [NASB]

Open: What brings you the greatest joy? Why? What do joy and trials have in common?

Back Ground Comments:
James says we should “consider it all joy” … when we face trials of many kinds.” Count it what? Joy? How much joy? All Joy! Could this be a misprint? Most of us consider various kinds of stressful trials to be a taste of hell itself, not all joy. We generally count it all joy when we avoid trials and stressful situations. We hear about someone else's trials and breathe a prayer of joyful thanks that we are not faced with the same problem.

Talk about a paradox! James' admonition seems diametrically opposed to the way we could naturally look at difficulties. His advice certainly seems strange on the surface. Most of us would say, “Count is all joy when you escape trails of various kinds.

What is a paradox? It's a seemingly absurd or self-contradictory statement or proposition that when investigated or explained may prove to be well founded or true. “Count it all joy ...”

We would consider it joy when we escape those kinds of trials. But here James is telling the believer that, paradoxically, he should count it all joy when he falls into various stressful ordeals. Our reactions to it and not our actions are often the issue. Jesus preached the whole Sermon on the Mount to show us the importance of our reactions as necessarily opposed to our actions. He said when stressful circumstances and situations arise, such as someone slapping us on the cheek, that it is the reaction that matters most. He said when some stressful circumstance comes our way as when someone steals our coat then it is our reaction that matters most. Yes, stress is paradoxical. We can “count it all joy when we fall into various trials.”

The Greek word that is translated here in (James 1:2) instructing us to “count it” all joy, means to “think ahead, to think forward.” It is in the aorist tense (in Greek, an unqualified past tense of a verb without reference to duration or completion of the action.) which indicates that the joy that we read about here comes from the trial. James is not saying the trial is joy. He is not advocating some type of sadomasochism here.

Job was thinking ahead when he said, “But He knows the way I take; When He has tried me, I shall come forth as gold.” (Job 23:10) [NASB] Job did not consider losing his health a joy. But he looked forward to the joy that would follow his trial.

Joseph also counted it all joy – he thought ahead. When revealing his identity to his brothers after so many years of hurt he said, “As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good in order to bring about this present result, to preserve many people alive.” (Genesis 50:20) [NASB] Did Joseph count it all joy to be in prison? Of course not. But he knew God's hand was in his circumstances and he was thinking ahead.

And what about Jesus our Lord? Jesus looked beyond his suffering. (Hebrews 12:2) says that is was “ … for the joy set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.” Did Jesus count Calvary a joy? Of course not! But thinking ahead, He thought past Calvary and therefore He bore up under the stress of the cross. Do you get the point?

Explore:
Can you, like Job or Joseph or Jesus, think ahead in the midst of your circumstances and situation? Have you considered it joy to be in the midst of a stressful situation? James is not saying that we have joy in the midst of our trials, but that we have joy in what lies ahead. It seems paradoxical, but James is saying, “There can be joy in the outcome.” God works in us during our stresses, circumstances and situations. We need forward thinking in order to deal with our stress, circumstances and situations properly.


Get it:
Define joy in your own words. How does the Bible define joy? Look up: (Psalm  4:7, 5:11, 16:11, 19:5, 20:5, 21:6, 27:6 and the list goes on in Psalms)

Apply:
Have you ever thought, “How can God use my stress, current situation and circumstance in my life? How can I count it all joy?” God uses those things to test our character, purify our motives, refocus our faith, to check our heart and often to cause us to work on broken relationships. Go back and review the list. Which one does God most frequently work in you? What counsel would you give someone going through the same thing?

Quoted from “High Calling-High Anxiety by OS Hawkins

"STRESS IS PROBLEMATIC - Part 2"

“Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds ...” (James 1:2) & “... for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.” (1 Corinthians 6:20) [NIV]

Open: How would you define stress?

Back Ground Comments:

In the coming weeks we will have a list prepared for you to take home and apply. But, first let's look at three physical solutions and one practical solution that we can implement right away.

We see in the life of Elijah (1 Kings 18 & 19) … Four Simple Solutions To Stress:

     1. Eat  healthy. “All at once an angel touched him and said, “Get up and eat.” He looked around, and there by his head was a cake of bread baked over hot coals, and a jar of water. He ate and drank ...” (vs. 5 & 6a) I have to confess to you that I have gained 5 of the 130 pounds that I have lost. I continue to work out, and am even enjoying working on the yard these days. But, my eating discipline has wavered. So, back to keeping a diary, counting my calories and choosing my food wisely.
     Vice Admiral Richard H. Carmona who was sworn in as the 17th Surgeon General of the United States Public Health Service on August 5, 2002, stated: “... people should not lose sight of the nation's biggest health threat: being overweight.” “... the fastest growing cause of illness and death in America today is being overweight or obese.” He noted that 300,000 die annually of health complications stemming directly from being overweight. Accordingly to the attorney general's office, two out of three Americans are overweight or obese, a 50% increase from a decade ago.
     Surgeon General Carmona asserted, “We are a treatment oriented society. We wait for people to get sick, and then we spend top dollar to make them healthy again.”
     In a USA Today article: It was reported that being overweight raises the risk of heart disease, diabetes and arthritis. There is also evidence that overweight and obese men and women have a higher risk of cancer of the esophagus, colon, liver, pancreas and kidneys. Eugenia Calle of the American Cancer Society stated, “We are at the same point now with obesity that we were with smoking in the mid-60's. We made smoking cessation a national priority as a society then, and we need to make maintaining a healthy weight a national priority now.” “Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price." (1 Corinthians 6:19-20) [NLT]
     The problem lies not simply with the quantity of food we eat but with the quality of food that we eat.

     2. Move! “No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.” (Hebrews 12:11) [NIV]
     According to the Mayo Clinic walking is a gentle, low-impact exercise that can ease you into a higher level of fitness and health. Walking is one of your body's most natural forms of exercise. It's safe, simple, doesn't require practice, and the health benefits are many. Walking can help you:

• Lower low-density lipoprotein (LDL) cholesterol (the "bad" cholesterol)

• Raise high-density lipoprotein (HDL) cholesterol (the "good" cholesterol)

• Lower your blood pressure

• Reduce your risk of or manage type 2 diabetes

• Manage your weight

• Improve your mood

• Stay strong and fit

• Have time for prayer and focus for the day

     3. Rest properly. “He ate and drank and then lay down again.” (v. 6b)
     This is some of the greatest advice Elijah can give us today. “I find that I experience less fatigue and frustration when I take care of myself. I have more energy to commit both to my ministry and to my wife. Sensible eating, along with regular exercise, has given me the energy I need to complete the tasks ahead of me. I know that God is my strength, but taking steps to handle stress appropriately helps sustain me to do what I have been called to. One of the very first things we need to do to overcome stress in our lives is to eat a properly balanced diet, exercise  and get plenty of rest.
     The solution is not only physical but it's also personal.

     4. Face your stress. Don’t ignore it, face it.

Explore: What are some problems that stress can cause in our life?

Get it: What do you think were the sources for stress in Elijah’s life? What do you think were the symptoms of stress in Elijah’s life?

Apply: What can you do to begin to lighten your stress?

Quoted from”Life Application Bible”, and Serendipity Bible

"STRESS IS PROBLEMATIC"

“Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds ...” (James 1:2) [NIV] & (1 Kings 19)

Open:

What was your favorite “hideout” as a kid? Why?

Back Ground Comments:

You will want to take a moment to read (1 Kings 18-19) to get familiar with the whole story. Meanwhile here is a short summary of what has taken place.
   
The kings of Israel and Judah, both good and evil, had prophets sent by God to advise, confront, and aid them. King David had a faithful friend in God’s prophet Nathan; Ahab could have had an equally faithful friend in Elijah. But while David listened to Nathan and was willing to repent of his sins, Ahab saw Elijah as his enemy. Why? Because Elijah always brought bad news to Ahab and Ahab refused to acknowledge that it was his own constant disobedience to God and persistent idol worship, not Elijah’s prophecies, that brought the evil on his nation. He blamed Elijah for bringing the prophecies of judgment, rather than taking his advice and changing his evil ways.
   
Ahab was trapped by his own choices, and he was unwilling to take the right action. As king, he was responsible to God and his prophet Elijah, but he was married to an evil woman who drew him into idol worship. He was a childish man who brooded for days if unable to get his own way. He took his evil wife’s advice, listened only to the “prophets” who gave good news, and surrounded himself with people who encouraged him to do whatever he wanted. But the value of advice cannot be judged by the number of people for or against it. Ahab consistently chose to follow the majority opinion of those who surrounded him, and that led to his death.
   
It may seem nice to have someone encourage us to do whatever we want because advice that goes against our wishes is difficult to to accept. However, our decisions must be based on the quality of the advice, not its attractiveness or the majority opinion of our peers. God encourages us to get advise from wise counselors, but how can we test the advice we receive? Advise that agrees with the principles in God’s Word is reliable. We must always separate advice from our own desires, the majority opinion, or whatever seems best in our limited perspective, and with it against God’s commands. He will never lead us to do what he has forbidden in his Word - even in principle. Unlike Ahab, we should trust godly counselors and have the courage to stand against those who would have us do otherwise.
   
King Ahab, influenced by his wife Jezebel, had led Israel into idolatry. (Idolatry is giving worship to anything other than the one true God. Idolatry is the spiritual worship of an idol. Many idolaters literally serve idols. In ancient Egypt statues of gods were regularly clothed and fed ...) Just before this scene, the power of God had come upon Elijah in amazing ways: (1) in a contest with the prophets of Baal, (Baal was the most prominent Canaanite deity. As the fertility god of the Canaanite pantheon (roster of gods), Baal’s sphere of influence included agriculture, animal husbandry, and human sexuality. The word “Baal” occurs in the Old Testament in combination with other terms, such as place names (Baal-peor, Hosea 9:10; Baal-hermon, Judges 3:3), or with other adjuncts as in Baal-berith (Baal of the covenant, 8:33). Baal worship became prominent in the northern kingdom of Israel during the days of King Ahab (ninth century BC) when he married Jezebel of Tyre, a city in Phoenicia (1 Kings 16:29-33; 18:19-40). Elijah demonstrated the Lord’s superiority over Baal - resulting in the execution of the false prophets: (2) after a long drought God sent rain in response to Elijah’s prayer; and (3) the Lord empowered Elijah to outrun Ahab’s chariot.
   
Sunday’s message will focus not so much on Ahab and Jezebel but on Elijah and the stress that was brought on by doing the right thing. In the later part of the passage we find him forgetting the victory God had just given him, fearful of Jezebel, fatigued after out running Ahab’s chariot and feeling like a failure. All these were real sources of the stress he experienced.

Explore:

Why did Elijah run to the desert and pray to die?

Get it:

What did Elijah need the most?
What was God saying to Elijah through the gentle whisper?

Apply:

When you experience stress or a let down, what helps you recover?
What message is there in this story for you?
What do you need the most right now?
Has your life taken a discouraging turn lately or are you stressed out about anything?
Does God seem to care at all in your struggle? How can you be helped?
Has God ever asked you “What are you doing here”? What was your answer?

Quoted from”Life Application Bible”, and Serendipity Bible

"STRESS IS PREDICTABLE"

1James, a servant of God and of the Lord Jesus Christ, to the twelve tribes scattered among the nations: Greetings. 2Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. 4Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. (James 1:1-4)

“The temptations/trials in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted/tried, he will show you a way out so that you can endure.” (1 Corinthians 10:13) [NLT]

Open:

What is the most stressful situation you have ever been in? What made it so stressful?

Back Ground Comments:

Every once in a while someone comes into my office and says to me, “I have a real hard time with a specific passage in the New Testament.” Then they reference James 1:2, “Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds ...” Then they follow it up with this question, “What am I supposed to do with this text in the Bible that tells me to be filled with joy over the tragedies and stresses it brings into my life?” They look at me square in the eyes and say, “I just lost my job.” Or, “I just lost my mother to a battle with cancer, and to be honest with you, I’m pretty far from being joyful about it!”

Some people try to set me up by asking a leading question. They say, something like this, “Ruben, do you really think God wants me to be genuinely honest?” If I say, “Generally yes,” they get a look in their eyes that says to me, “I’ve got you now!”

They say, “We have a huge desire to have a baby and just this week we found out that we are not able to.” Or, my brother got killed this past week in a drive by shooting.” Or, “My husband has been having an affair for the past three months and has decided to leave us for the other woman.” And then they tell me of their sorrow. Genuine, real, deep sorrow.

Then comes the bomb: “Does this section of the Bible really say that I should be joyful about this suffering? How does this passage of the Bible fit in with what I am facing in my life?

What I have discovered over the years is that these people are usually not looking for a biblical sparring partner. Rather, they are looking for real, deep, and lasting answers to the aching in their hearts. They want to know what god has to say to them in the middles of their pain and stress. If there is any joy or peace to be found in the middle of the storm and stress they are experiencing, they want to know about it.
    

Explore:

Describe a difficult or painful experience when your heart hungered to find meaning, peace, and even joy in the middle of the crisis and stress.

Get it:

How can trials, stress and difficult times develop perseverance in a follower of Christ? Have you experienced this in your own life?

Apply:

James says that perseverance will lead to maturity and completion. See (v. 3). How has God been growing perseverance in your life in the past year? How have you matured as a follower of Christ through this time of perseverance?

Quoted from”Life Application Bible”,  Illumina, Serendipity Bible and “Live Wisely" by Bill Hybels

"THE STRESS FACTOR"

"James, a servant of God and of the Lord Jesus Christ, to the twelve tribes scattered among the nations: Greetings. Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything." (James 1:1-4) [NIV]

"Brethren, I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, I press toward the goal for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus." (Philippians 3:13-14) [KJV]

Open: What causes you the most stress in life? What do you typically do when stressed out?

Back Ground Comments:
It is important to note to who James addresses his letter to. It was to the twelve tribes which are scattered abroad. “James, a servant of God and of the Lord Jesus Christ, to the twelve tribes scattered among the nations ...” (James 1:1) He was writing to these early Christians who were, in his words, “scattered among the nations.” The Greek word is diaspora. We get our word “disperse or dispersion” from this word. It's a picture of someone scattering seed. Or in our time, using a walk behind seed spreader. Beginning with the death of Stephen in Acts 8, the Christians in Jerusalem were scattered through the known Roman world. Persecution broke out against the church in Jerusalem and the Bible tells us that “... all except the apostles were scattered throughout the world ...” (Acts 8:1).

As we look at this dispersion today, we quickly see that God permitted this test on the Jerusalem church for a purpose. If they had not been scattered throughout the world, the Gospel would not have spread. The result of this diaspora was that in one single generation the Gospel spread all throughout the known world.

James was writing this letter to those Christian Jews who were scattered outside of Palestine. He was writing to those who had been dispersed. He was writing to those who had to leave their homes and their jobs and their properties. However, this is not just a letter to Christian Jews outside of Palestine in the 1st century world. There is a real sense in which all Christians are in the diaspora. We are living in exile from our eternal, heavenly home. So you see, this letter is a letter from God to each of us. Behind the hand of James is the very hand of God Himself penning these words for “ ... no prophecy in Scripture ever came from the prophet’s own understanding, or from human initiative. No, those prophets were moved by the Holy Spirit, and they spoke from God.” (2 Peter 1:20-21) [NLT]

James is writing to Christians who are facing all kinds of “trials” - stresses. He was teaching them, and us, how to deal with stress and pressure that life brings. He is writing to those of us who are dealing with or will deal with it. Yet, at the same time he is writing to those who are wrestling with how to live out what they believe in a stressful world. As we continue our series for the next five weeks you will notice that James is extremely practical and at times critical in his encouragement for each of us to find margin in our life.

I want you to take a moment and think about the people who were the first readers of this letter. There were women who were at their wit's end. They had been uprooted from their homes, their “nests.” They found themselves struggling to keep the home together even though they were hundreds of miles away. He was writing to children who were trying to deal with new surroundings and uncertain futures, living now in a completely different culture. He was writing to men and women who were literally hanging by a thread and who were under tremendous pressure and intense stress. It's as if these words were written directly to those of us who take our High calling serious and are experiencing high anxiety.

One of the greatest secrets of life, one which I am in the process of learning, is the ability to react properly under stress and pressure. As the verses of James 1 unfold in the weeks to come, we will see that James is addressing the issues which are not simply applicable to a 1st century world but just as valid for a 21st century world. I pray that in the next five weeks you will find a word from God for your heart and life.

Explore: Many say that stress can be predictable, problematic, paradoxical, purposeful and profitable. How is this true? Look at each one of these 5 “P” words and give an answer for each.

Get it: Stress mainly comes into our life because, one, we bring it upon ourselves, two, the Lord uses it to redirect us and three, because we’re living as Christians ought to live. Why do you most frequently experience it?

Apply: How can you turn your stress into something profitable?

Quoted from”Life Application Bible”, Illumina, Serendipity Bible and “High Calling, High Anxiety" by O.S. Hawkins

"TRUTH"

“30Even as he spoke, many put their faith in him. 31To the Jews who had believed him, Jesus said, "If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples. 32Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” (John 8:30-31) [NIV] also (John 18:37)

Open: Who is the most truthful person you know? What do you think motivates them to be truthful?

Back Ground Comments:

Here are a few excerpts from different commentaries that I read in preparation for my post. Read through them carefully while referencing your Bible at the same time.

If the truth sets you free, ask God to speak to you in truth as you answer the questions at the end.

(v. 30) As He spoke these wonderful words, Jesus found that many professed to believe on Him. Doubtless some were genuine in their faith. Others might only have been prompted to give lip service.

(v. 31) Then Jesus made a distinction between those who are disciples and those who are disciples indeed. A disciple is anyone who professes to be a learner, but a disciple indeed is one who has definitely committed himself to the Lord Jesus Christ. Those who are true believers have this characteristic - they hold to His teaching. This means that they continue in the teachings of Christ. They do not turn aside from Him. True faith always has the quality of permanence. They are not saved by abiding in His word, but they abide in His word because they are saved.

(v. 32) The promise is made to every true disciple that you will know the truth and the truth will set you free. The Jews did not know the truth, and they were in a terrible form of bondage. They were in the bondage of ignorance, error, sin, law, and superstition. Those who truly know the Lord Jesus are delivered from sin, they walk in the light, and are led by the Spirit of God.

Jesus Himself is the truth that sets you free (see 8:36) He is the source of truth, the perfect standard of what is right. He frees us from continued slavery to sin, from self-deception, and from deception by Satan. He shows us clearly the way to eternal life with God. Thus, Jesus does not give us freedom to do what we want, but freedom to follow God. As we seek to serve God, Jesus’ perfect truth frees us to be all that God meant us to be.

Explore:

What do you think about this statement, “Truth is the foundation for everything?”

What promises did Jesus make to those who believed in him?

As a believer how do you determine what is truth or false?

Get it:

What kinds of spiritual pride tempt people today to a false security that prevents true dependence on Jesus?

In what sense did you have to humble yourself in order to accept Jesus as Savior?

Since becoming a Christian, what is an instance in which God’s truth has made you free?

How can we explain to nonbelievers the importance of the divinity of Christ?

Apply:

Will you ask God to show you an area where you have depended on your knowledge instead of fostering your personal dependence on God’s truth? How firm a grip on the “truth” do you have?

Quoted from”Life Application Bible”, Illumina, Serendipity Bible and Believers Commentary

Living Like A Man After God's Own Heart

“9 Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. 10 Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves. 11 Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord. 12 Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. 13 Share with God's people who are in need. Practice hospitality.14 Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. 15 Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn. 16 Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited.” (Romans 12:9-16) [NIV]

Is there a man in the house? If so, have you ever wondered what a real, godly man looks like?

Sadly to say, many children in our community will go to bed tonight without a man in the house.

How did we get from Ricky and Lucy to Ricky Martin? What happened to cause this hug shift in our society? Well we need first of all to understand a little bit of our past culture in order to answer this question.

In the 1950's it is was an exception to find the absence of a man in the house. I remember as a young boy hearing for the first time that someone was getting a divorce and how confused I was with that. I didn't know anyone who had been divorced. Yes there were problems, but they were different in the 1950's than we have today. Post war men came back, in my parents generation, came to know Christ, you do that when your at war, … with dreams of being married, having a family, buying a car and owning a home.

In the 1960's again, it was an exception to find a home without a father and divorce was still not a very common thing. This, however, was the decade that the American male began his evolution. It was the decade that sex was separated from responsibility. It was the time known as “peace”, “flower child”, LSD and free sex.

Along came the 1970's with it's feminist movement. Men's roles began to shift in the home and family. He began to think “who am I” and “what am I”? He went from being John Wayne to being Richard Simons.

The 1980's was the decade of greed, power, buy, buy, buy, earn, earn, earn, work, work, and work some more. Men would go home completely exhausted not having any energy left to be men at home, play with their kids, and be the leader, thus surrendered that role to the wife.

1990's We have men who grew up thinking that the goal to life was to play. How many of you have seen grown men acting like young boys? The goal of most men in the 90's was to play and make lots of money. I remember growing up with teachers, Dr.'s, coaches, police men, and astronauts being my heros. Who are our boys hero's today? It's the entertainers, it's the athletes who are winning the attention of our boys.

Let me share some facts we need to be concerned about. Nineteen percent of babies born in America are born out of a traditional marriage. They will grow up never knowing their fathers or experiencing their love for them. The National Center For Children And Poverty tell us boys who are raised without a father in the home are two times more likely to drop out of school, two times more likely to go to jail, and four times more likely to suffer emotional problems requiring treatment.

William Pollack in his book, “Real Boys”, states that divorce affects both boys and girls, but that it is devastating for males. The lack of discipline and supervision caused by a father's absence and his unavailability to teach boys to be men has devastating effects on them.

What's the basic problem? Absent fathers, absent fathers, absent fathers and more absent fathers. It's a vicious cycle. Fatherless families are producing fatherless families.

Dr. Eliam in his book “Raising A Son”, says that the reason there are so many troubled boys is contributed to distant uninvolved fathers, resulting in mothers who have to take on more responsibility to fill the gaps.

Sociologist Peter Carl states that eighty percent of a boys time is spent with women resulting in not knowing how to act as a man when they grow up. The relationship between the sexes is affected and men become more like big kids. And in the homes that the father is present but not involved the wife becomes confused. She sees a man in the market place who is in control, who rules with authority, a man who is involved in his occupation and then comes home and spending the rest of the evening on the lazy boy with remote control in hand ignoring his children and in his wife.

This Sunday we are going to wrap up our r12 series taking an overall look at Romans 12:9-16). As you read this passage of scripture ask yourself, “What does 'Living Like A Man After God's Own Heart” look like? What are the qualities listed in these verses? Write them down and you also strive to live your life according to the list you came up with.

Open:

What is your favorite memory with your father, step father, (father figure) or grandfather?

Explore:

How does it make you feel after reading the statistics and facts above?

Have you been affected by the “culture shift” and the “redefining of man”? If so, how?

Read (Romans 12:9-16) What are the characteristics of a godly “person” that you identified? Here is a list I came up for with: be sincere (v. 9), be considerate (v. 10), be energetic (v. 11), be prayerfully patient (v. 12), be warm (v. 13), be different (v. 14), be understanding (v. 15), be one (v. 16).

Be honest, which one of these do you struggle with?

Which one of these do you do easily?

Apply:

This Sunday is Father's Day. Honestly evaluate your relationship with your father/father figure. How is your relationship with “him”? What needs to improve? Will you take the initiative? When?